Parents are well aware that patience plays an important role in the healthy upbringing of children - but sometimes work pressures and household chores can rob parents of peace of mind. In such a situation, most of the parents are under pressure and tell their children some things that they should not do at all. Parents consider these things as normal things but in reality these things have a negative effect on the children. Here are five things that most parents say to their child but they should not say otherwise children may be rebellious and distant or they may lack confidence.
Hurry up
Most children are lazy in preparing to go to school or even when you have to take them somewhere and you have less time - but it's not a big deal but you have children at the moment. Don't tell them to hurry because it will put more pressure on them - making noise will make them feel more guilty so don't encourage the child to act too fast. You can also speed things up by making things a game, like telling them, 'Let's see who gets to the front door.'
Leave me alone
Of course we all need to be alone for a while so that we can have a few moments of peace - but children don't understand these things and speaking directly can make them feel bad - for that you have to take other paths like "Remind them of their important work and say that if they come back after completing this work, then they will talk or play together" - and fulfill their promise again.
Why aren't you like your brother or sister?
We are all guilty of comparing our children with other children around us. While this may be a bit natural, make sure your children don't listen to you whenever you do. When you tell your children to be like everyone else, it promotes unhealthy competition. By saying such words, you show that you want your child to be like someone else, but it hurts them. Instead, praise your child and encourage him to do his best. This way you can customize your children.
Stop crying
Most parents prevent their children from crying when they are upset or sad for some reason - but in doing so they try to suppress your feelings at the time and thus the child also thinks that I have lost my feelings. But it can be very dangerous for the life to come - so if they feel like crying, let them cry for a while.
I used to do this when I was like you
All children have different moods. Comparing them to yourself will make them feel that they have disappointed you. Appreciating your child's efforts and encouraging them is the best way to get them to do what they want.
